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It appears that not all members of our combined family agree to a definition of "Family". In today's changing world, the definition has had to change also. With post-nuclear fluid families, extended family connections have become more common. Alan has three children with his ex-wife, Kathy. I have three children with my ex-husband (Ed) plus adopted daughter Cyndi. As these kids grow up, get married, have children, our family increases. Recently one of the (step) daughter-in-laws told me quite emphatically and nastily that I am not "her family". I would guess that the past two years or so that she has been welcomed into our home hasn't meant much. So to that person, you are still related. You can choose your friends, but not your relatives, even when they are by marriage. Keeping the grandchildren from their Papa Alan is depriving them of an important relationship, love, and a legacy that goes beyond money. Communication is important, but it can't be one-sided. You have to be willing to communicate. Don't accuse me of not communicating just because I won't talk to someone yelling at me and acting extremely aggressive. You refused to discuss anything that I brought up. Yes, the children did say things and we were not prying. Children of a certain age do talk and can't wait to see reactions to things that have been said in their presence that they question. We changed the subject. You must not want your now-ex-husband knowing what this child told us. You said you wouldn't keep the kids from us but by the e-mail we received the very next day obviously you got your now-ex to do it for you. You have some wrong ideas and I would welcome a discussion (without aggression) with you. As for your now-ex, I would welcome the opportunity to also discuss the issues. It's been over a year since the children's paternal grandfather has seen the two grandchildren. A Marine would face someone, not hide behind an e-mail. |
| | Jen Radloff and Alan Radloff welcome you to this page. We are a blended family, with other close members from our previous family units. Included in our fluid family are: Alice, Jon, Beka, Cyndi, Ian,Rosemarie,Meaghan, Victoria,Nathan, Ryan,Adam, Ashley, and Alex. Both Alan and Jen have grandchildren, Adam's sons (Chase and Jayden) by his ex-wife, Amanda, and Jon's daughter (Kristina) by his ex, April. We also welcome to the family Beka's fiancee, Nathan, and his family as well as , Alifya and her family. Our warmest welcome goes to our newest members of the family, Rosemarie, Victoria, and the baby coming! Also, we have another baby coming this winter with Cyndi and Ian! We are so excited! Alice is in Florida with Ryan now. Things have changed quite a bit over the past few years for her. One of the nice things about being young and no kids is being able to do fun things, like surfing on the beach! Another nice things about Alice living on the beach is being able to visit her AND the beach! Ryan is a nice addition to our family. Jen is disabled, but enjoys being able to be home for her family. She is involved in PEO, church, rubber-stamping, and playing her various instruments. Jen also enjoys canoeing, camping, fishing, target practice, and walking. She is also a Stephen Minister and a board member of Friends of Ruth. Alan, retired from WI as Chief of Police in Brillion, now works for the Sheriff's Office. His hobbies include riding on his Honda Goldwing motorcycle, writing, golfing, gardening, fishing, target shooting, hunting, and spending quality family time. Alan is president of the local Blue Knights and an Elder at our church. Cyndi has moved from Ohio to AZ. She has brought with her a Great Dane puppy, who has gotten quite....tall. He's a handsome dog named Bear. Bear has a "little" brother, another great dane, Cooper. We are very happy to have Cyndi closer. Her bouyant personality is infectious! She is a joy to have with us again! Her husband, Ian, is a delight and we love having them over for a dinner and a game. They have a baby coming this winter! |
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Campbell/Radloff Wedding, October 10, 2004 |
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Alan and Jen got married on Oct 10, 2004 by Pastor Herman Jonas at Trinity Lutheran Church. Preceding the bride was Alan's sisters Grace Broehm (with husband Jim), Judy (with usher Don Kooiman), and Jen's mother Helen Hoxie. Alice, Jen's youngest daughter, was the Maid of Honor, and Doug Broehm was Alan's Best Man. Readings from the bible was done by Alan's niece, Linda Geschke. Music was coordinated by Chris and Renae Henze. Other thanks go to Rosann Zolnierczyk for all her help, Vee Kooiman for her support and donations, everyone who helped with the receptions, and all who came to celebrate this special day with us. | | Technology moves fast, and manners aren’t keeping up. In older times, real innovations were so few and far-between that social conventions had time to grow up around them. Did you know, for example, that there was a recommended greeting for use with the new-fangled telephone? People didn’t know what to say when they picked up the speaking-tube, so they were given a suggestion: “Ahoy!” But now that tech is everywhere and ever evolving, people don’t know how to conduct themselves in public. The gizmos themselves are innocent, but the users are not. http://blog.wired.com/gadgets/2008/09/five-antisocial.html If you are at a meal, turn your phone OFF!!! That includes text messaging! Don't think you're fooling me when you are texting under the table. You don't care to actually talk with me if your attention is given to that little device. It's RUDE. You are teaching your children not to pay attention to people when they talk to you. Going "Uh Huh, Uh Huh, Uh Huh" while your eyes are on the phone is an insult. You're not listening to me, not participating in a conversation, and all that indicates that you'd rather be somewhere else with someone else. |
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